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Creating Spaces for Meaningful Intergenerational Conversations in Black Communities: M-I-S-Communication

Creating Spaces for Meaningful Intergenerational Conversations in Black Communities: M-I-S-Communication

By Aunsha Hall-Everett, MA | February 4, 2016
Executive Director, REACH LA

Throughout my time working with young people, I have had the opportunity to witness amazing conversations. I recently spoke with a group of young Black gay men (ages 16-19) about some of the sexual health and health promotion efforts we are building.


Hearing them share their experiences gave me two “ah ha” moments. First, I’m getting old. Second, we need to improve intergenerational relationships and build better communication between younger and older adults.

Sitting at the Table

Twelve years ago, I was this 22-year-old new outreach worker, finishing up my undergrad work at the University of Kentucky. Because of my age, sexual orientation and race, I was privileged to sit at many “tables.” A lot of groups wanted to hear my “youth perspective.”

But while I was at those tables, I felt more tokenized than valued. I was the “young person” needed to fill a quota rather than an expert who was there to share a different and valuable viewpoint. (Michael Everett eloquently speaks to his experience of this type of tokenism here.)

Now, as a 34-year-old new Executive Director for a youth-serving organization, I am dismayed to see that young people are having the same experience I had twelve years ago.

Who’s Issue Is This?

In some parts of the country, HIV is a younger person’s issue—the people most at risk, those who are newly diagnosed, those needing treatment and services, are predominantly under 30. In other regions, it is more of an older person’s issue.

I’ve sat on both sides of this room. I’ve been the young gay man able to take the pulse of his community of brothers, hearing my friends say, “Those people running the programs? They are not listening to us.”

I’ve been the older, established professional trying to encompass distinct and different views across generations, hearing staff or board members say, “Those people in the community? They are not listening to us.”

Throughout my twelve years of working in the HIV prevention and service arena (and experiencing my own personal and professional transitions), the need for more meaningful intergenerational conversations in Black communities has become ever more crucial.

What We Can Do Together

Our community is hurting. It is time to have the conversation around what we can do together that we cannot do apart. We can make these conversations stronger, better and more purposeful. But to succeed, we must also be:

  • Mindful. We all have different lived experiences. One lived experience does not trump another. Being mindful allows us to find our voice and use it. It also gives us the skill and patience to listen.
  • Intentional. We must know our purpose for doing this work. We must be clear in sharing our purpose with others. When we allow our purpose to be our guiding light, we are better able to open our hearts. This enriches and strengthens meaningful conversations with those of different lived experiences.
  • Strategic. We must identify our shared problems and allow these to define our process for collectiveness and coalition-building. We need to ensure that the process is clearly defined with systems of accountability.

Mindful. Intentional. Strategic. This kind of M-I-S-Communication can make the difference!

Voices in the Black Community

Many people across many different communities are working to end the HIV epidemic. Each year, we mark National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day on February 7—an opportunity for the Black community specifically to promote education and HIV testing and mobilize our neighborhoods to respond to the continuing epidemic. The NBHAAD website reminds us, “We have to challenge the mindset in our homes, communities, workplace, churches, mosques and temples, because we all need to take a stand against HIV/AIDS.” The theme this year is "I Am My Brother's and Sister’s Keeper: Fight HIV/AIDS!"

This is exactly the reason M-I-S-Communication is so vital. Our brothers and sisters are dying from this epidemic, both young and old. We can no longer talk to just our peers about the problem. We have to expand those conversations into other Black social networks—across generations, across genders, across neighborhoods. Working together, we will be able to assess and influence the social determinants that continue to oppress us. This is the way we will build real and effective strategies to end this epidemic that is killing us.

Aunsha Hall-Everett, MA, is Executive Director of REACH LA. He can be reached at

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